hey everyone!!!
i have been sick the past couple days so i haven't been able to update u all on what has been going on. i'm feeling better but i'm not 100% i'm probably at 65% i guess. i feel well enough to go to class today but i'm probably not gonna go to work today. i have some pto left so i'll use one of those days. but anywho, let me get u all caught up.....
this weekend was fun. i went out friday and saturday night. friday i went to happy mexican and had some drinks with some new friends. i had a great time. i never had a margarita from there before and i've heard that they are pretty strong, but i always figured people got drunk because of the size of the drinks.....WRONG. i drank a beer with my meal and decided to order one after i ate. folks, when i say it tasted like a bowl of tequila i'm not kidding. so i downed my bowl, and we all went to this house party. well before we left the restaurant, this young lady and myself were feeling each other a little bit and after the liquor settled in we really became close. so we get to the party and she and i are talkin dancin a bit, laughin, flirting. well the party ends and we decide to exchange numbers. well, i take her number down and i put her name in my phone and she says "wait. thats not my name." i was like "yes it is." the entire night folks, i swear she told me her name was jasmine. after a back and forth battle for 2min she finally tells me her name....it was jessica. #o_O So the next morning i wake up and i look to her name and send her a text, how bout i only took down 6 numbers. clearly this isn't meant to be. her friend gave me the number again, but at this point its almost like whats the point. she hadn't called me at all, so i mean i'm not trippin. its not like when i see her again i'm gonna have this mean attitude. but i just thought that it was funny, because A)i'm not big on gettin anyones number while drunk B)well there isn't a B. LOL but naturally i am terrible with remembering peoples names, thats why a majority of my friends have nicknames. besides my home boy told me that she smashed the homies anyways so whatever.....on to the next lol
on twitter lately, there's been this craze to talk about relationships and how there aren't any good men/women out there. i saw a documentary on black women and how they said that 42% of black women have NEVER been married. thats RIDICULOUS!!!! there are 1.8 million more black women then men. so i know that there is definitely one out there for me lol, but here's the conflict, people have to realize that the "stanards" that they have aren't real standards. like a man can't eat pork or he can't drink or smoke or he can't under 6ft tall. dumb ish like that will make u the 43rd%. i used to say that i would never date a girl that wore weave. my ex wore it(still laughing at that wig lol) i said i would never date a girl that had a child. in todays society, the odds of finding someone that doesn't have a kid isn't rare, but they are hard to come by. thing i look for in a woman are things like education level, relationship with God, her family, her moral values is what i'm gettin at. u can't have this laundry list of random things that u know you will never find in a person. i still don't prefer a woman that wears a weave, but if she does it has to look real. i'm not dating someone that has a weave like nikki manaj. i think if we just sat down and thought about it we would find the one for us.
also if u still out here sleeping around with every tom, dick and harry, what makes u think you can find a good man? i know this girl that prefers to sleep with a certain frat and she has slept with this one guy and his fraternity brothers for about a year now and she runs off at the mouth that "niggas aint shit". no ma'am YOU aint ish. keep your legs closed. i have a home boy, he says he's going to settle down and be with one girl, but every time i look up, he in some broad face "spittin game". at what age do u you realize that that shit is for the birds. yeah being single has its down times, but i'd much rather be alone than to be know as the guy thats sleeps with every girl he meets. and women know when a guy is easy. they talk just like men talk about women. u may think that u playin them, but the girl will have the last laugh homie. cuz they laughin at you everytime u come around.
but anywho, thats all i have for now. i have another post i have to post but i'll do it this afternoon.
peace&love
Excellent post kid. I've been thinking a lot about this over the past few days too. There are so many unmarried black women out there because for one, as black women and men we have so many stereotypes about each other. "Black women are nagging, controlling, too independent, and have attitudes", or "black men are lazy playas who find a white woman as soon as they've made something of themselves." We have to let go of this sterotypical thinking and also those standards you were talking about. We can't expect our partner to be fine, educated, 6ft tall, have good credit, a good job, nice house, car, etc. if we're don't have our act together ourselves. Sounds like the people you're talking about def don't have it together, especially ole girl sleeping with the guy and his fraternity brothers. You can't find(and hold on to) a good man if you're not a good woman. #justsayin
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