Monday, November 23, 2009

what they really want from a brotha??

so i was reading one the blogs that i follow and it got me thinking.....what is it that really want from a woman??????
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i mean clearly i KNOW what i want, but the question is are YOU capable of giving it back? i hate the dating process. absolutely hate it. i hate the whole "holding back certain comments because she may not know that i'm joking" thing. i hate meeting friends and family that don't like me because i didn't do this or that the way they wanted me to do it. i couldn't tell you the last girl i dated and i actually LIKED her friends. lol i just want to know WHAT YOU WANT FROM ME. i'm not going to pretend to like you, i'm not gonna gas your head up with lies or anything like that. just say, "this is what i want and if you can do those things and whatever else positivity you can bring is a plus". i want to meet a girl that gives me butterflies and makes me chase her a bit. i've NEVER in the years of dating had to chase a female. not a single one. i've never approached a girl. they always have came on to me first and i just went with it. if it developed into something, then great. if it didn't,thats great too. even my relationships, they always began with sex after first meeting. i don't want that in my next relationship. i want the real deal courtship. make me wait. make me chase you. hell, make me do anything besides pin your legs back within a day or two. lol

i'm not 100% ready to get back in the game, but i am up for a good game of 21. meaning i'm not trying to be with ANYONE right now but i will listen to what you have to say. i'm still nursing a few injuries but trust, i won't be out for long. i think last week sped up a LARGE portion of that, but its still a growing process that i'm workin hard to recover from. this post was a little random and i'm sure i contradicted myself a little but hey its my blog and i'm just thinking out loud. have a good day folks.....

peace&love

5 comments:

  1. take it from me little homie...there's nothing in this world like having to really court a woman..i hadn't had to do it in a long time, but doing it now..and it's like a breath of fresh air..getting to know each other, learning what makes her smile, what makes her tick..that shit is a lost art, that every person (man, woman) should have the pleasure of experiencing..

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  2. i agree with dreadhead. i like to be courted. in my young life i've only been truly courted by one man. some men arent very patient, while others arent willing to put in the effort that may be needed. they may think that because she hasnt decided to spread her legs she must not be interested....but we have led ourselves to believe that nonsense.
    Im finally allowing myself to date again. I'm slowly getting out of being 'with the shit' maybe somewhere along the way i will actually accept a second date from someone i truly like...because i truly like them not just because i want to be near someone.
    good luck homie!

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  3. man dating and the experience of it can be exhilarating and a total horror depending on where you stand and your readiness to get into a relationship

    now do i have some sort of definitive answer to your question no. but what i can say is that alot of females (depending on where they are in their maturity, which really has nothing to do with age) fall into one of the several lines of thought: A: i'll just go with the flow of things, let it happens as it comes. if we ever go down the path of getting serious then we will be in a relationship; B: i'm grown, he is grown, if we are comfortable with each other enough to sleep together then whats the problem?; or C: in order to keep a man interested you are going to at some point have to give him some bootay, and that points lies within the immediate future.

    of course this is no way a depiction of all females or female thinking, but it does make up a huge part of our faulty thinking.

    why do you give in to such ideas, who knows, we dont really know (we really have to sit down and take a serious look at ourselves, and who is comfortable in admitting they have faulty thinking or beliefs). but here are some, just for shits and giggles:
    not knowing our worth or making our worth something worth a man to want,
    not giving up soo much soo soon,
    need to be needed or wanted that supersedes our need to respect ourselves

    i could go on. but i think i've hijacked enough of the room in your comments section

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  4. I don't understand why people don't like to date. I love the "getting to know u stage". It is one of my fav parts of dating. I don't know if it's because I love to talk and find out about the person I am interested in or I just like meeting new people. There is nothing better than a man and woman courting one another. It really is a lost art. We don't find out about each other's interest and sometimes don't even care enough to find out to have something to build a realtionship on. Just ready to get in between them sheets. I am guilty of that. I thought a guy was gay b/c I felt enough time (2 dates to be exact) had passed and I thought he should be ready to sleep with me.

    I will admit I am use to being courted. That is the way I want it to happen, but I will also say that once that stops I lose interest. So, IMO as long as u(both members of the relationship) know how to keep one another interested u got a winner! It is a growing process for all of us.

    Although I am in a realtionship there are things that I find out about my mate every day some times I like sometimes I don't. I think woman are so use to putting on fronts for men when they are in realtionships they have lost sight of themseleves. They need to figure that out then try and build somthing with a man. I liked this post made me think.

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  5. this can be a heavy topic for sure. i'm not really a dater, i'm always in it for the long haul, but there has been a loss of 'getting to know you'... girls and guys give it up too easy and that's part of the reason for the decline. i love a man to chase me, and at times will make it more difficult to see his intentions.

    great post.
    .kisses.

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